9 Habits

Goals for 6/9/20: 8am wake-up [productivity] I was up early, before 8am, and didn’t go back to sleep! Daily Chitas [spiritual refinement and connection] Done! 1 exercise video/day [self-love] I did a fun calisthenics video. I also realized why I didn’t quite enjoy them all. It’s just one more after the next. I love doing the dancing videos - so much fun! I definitely break a sweat either way, thank G-d -- and that's my goal! Eating mindfully & meditatively for nourishment [mind/body/soul connection] Today was better than yesterday. I realize that I really cannot rely on having whole food options wherever I go, so I must prepare something as a dish to share. For example, last night at the BBQ at Aaron’s, I took initiative and brought a salad. Unfortunately, Aaron and I finished it before everyone came. If I hadn’t brought the salad, there would’ve been no ‘healthy’ option within the meal. I can take responsibility and provide good options for myself and others, while avoiding th...

Good morning! It’s 11am at this point. I was up early around 7am, earlier than my 8am goal time. I got out of bed around 8:30am, and in the meantime I checked my messages on social media. I sent out a quick Shidduch resume to friends, groups, and Shadchanim. (I think I'm feeling lonely.) I turned off Internet access on my phone until I accomplished several tasks. So far, I recited morning Brachos, Chitas, completed a 30min workout video, took a shower, changed, and made a smoothie. I’m about to spend some professional development time, and then I will let myself go to social media to connect with friends. I’ve had many, many thoughts this morning that I’ve been dying to get on paper. I planned on writing them all out when I got a chance to sit down with my laptop. And so here I am, with a mid-morning update. I typically would say that I only update once/day, but I felt compelled to write something. When I contact Shadchanim, I usually throw them my resume. I often feel that that is...

Today was a great day! I feel very accomplished by what I did. The goals I set, I felt, helped set boundaries that I felt good about! I kept my phone usage to a minimum, and became more aware of my usage in general. I realized that I am more productive while not being on my phone (duh, but like for real!). I felt better about myself, and more accomplished. I held back from using my phone until the afternoon, after I had accomplished a set list of tasks. I continue to have bad thoughts about my looks, my weight, self-confidence/self-concept. I know that if I take it one day at a time, one foot in front of the other, hammer away daily, I’ll get somewhere. I just have to try. Put in effort. One foot in front of the other. Give myself a chance to change and improve. No phone after 10pm [productivity, mental health] I checked my phone after 10pm tonight a few times, but I just came back home from a BBQ at a friend’s apartment, so I wasn’t paying close attention to the time. This goal came a...

January is typically a time to re-start, re-hash, re-fresh from the past and look toward the future. Back in January 2019, I was watching YouTube videos about making resolutions, trying new things, setting goals, etc. One video that I watched struck me deeply and I sent it to my therapist, parents, and close friends. The video was titled, "How to design your life" (or something along those lines), which intrigued me more than the regular blather about setting goals/resolutions. Designing my life, eh? That sounds interesting and unique, and certainly more holistic. In the video, he describes how he "designs" his life by simply choosing three goals and with each goal, setting up three habits per goal - a total of, you guessed it: NINE HABITS! The idea is to make achieving goals a habit. That way, the goal is completed automatically without having to think about it; essentially, "automating success." The video details his method, including having an accountab...